Posted by: mylovingheart | June 7, 2015

You Can Say “Yes” to Love!


As I navigated through the grief process my heart just ached.  It ached to hold on to all the love that I had for my husband.  To keep it locked inside because I thought that was it.  There could not possibly be any greater love than what I had during our time together.  The family that we had made together was made from that love.  How could I possibly be able to love again in that way.  That is where I got it all wrong.  I didn’t have to love like that again.  I would now let love teach me what love was all about.  Love was learning how to truly accept people for who they are.  To be able to see them they way God saw them.   No judgment.  No criticism.  No wanting your own way.  Sometimes to even love without getting a reply.  Wow that is not easy!  Often I found myself wanting to mold someone to the image I had for them.  When I stopped and realized how much I would hate someone doing that to me, I thought let’s embrace who they are and not who I think they should be.  Again God was doing some pruning in me so that He could get me ready for what He had planned for me.  It is extremely hard to let God prune those broken pieces.  To be able to later sit in absolute amazement of how he took those broken pieces and formed a new beautiful you.

Last year in the Spring I could feel that God had brought me through more healing and had me at a place where I was at total peace of who I had become.  Had learned to let go and embrace life and all that it had to offer.  Little did I realize that as He was preparing me, He was also preparing the man that He wanted me to be with.  In April that man got up the courage to ask me to dinner.  He was a widower and had gone through much of the same things to make room to love again.  We both had come to a place where we were both ready to let love in again.  We both knew that we would always have a special place in our heart for the spouse that had died, but that we could create a new love that could be beautiful and unique in its own way.   We both had absolutely loved Plan A to have our spouse live healthy happy lives with us into our old age, but unfortunately we had to go to Plan B.  Plan B takes courage!  Courage to be vulnerable with another person.  Both of us wanted to let love be open and untrammeled and just go wherever it lead us.  I knew that God loved both of us enough to give us the desires of our heart.  We just had to have faith in God and each other.

So I ask this question of you– What if you let love all the way in?  What would that look like for you?  What do you think you need to do in order to get to a place that you are letting love all the way in?

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