Posted by: mylovingheart | September 13, 2013

Giving Grace!


Recently I went to the beach.  Having not been all year I could not wait to put my feet in the sand and just feel the gentle breeze and hear the sound of the waves.  It just speaks to my soul.  I love the absolute serenity that comes with just being in nature.  It gives me a chance to turn down some of the clutter in my head and just let God speak truth to me.   I am always amazed at the grace that God is willing to give no matter what the circumstances.

While sitting on the beach I reflected back on some of my recent dating experiences.  I have to say that I was never a huge fan of dating in my twenties and certainly find it interesting in my fifties.  I have discovered that the rules haven’t really changed much and some of the men are still like boys that are in their twenties.  It has been fun and interesting to meet new people and to get to know them.  It just shows me more and more that we all have had our joys and disappointments in life and they have made us to where we are today.  I have learned that I had to put myself in a healthy place so that I was not bringing any unnecessary emotional garbage to the relationship.  That it was absolutely necessary to own my own emotions and not try to blame or change anyone if I did not like what they were doing.

Most of all what I have learned so far in dating is the word GRACE.  The ability to have enough grace to embrace who they are.  Most of all to not judge.  You can try to observe or guess what someone is thinking or feeling, but unless they tell you themselves, you are basically guessing or judging.  It takes grace to not go to that place.  One lesson that I have had to learn and seems to be necessary is to have the grace to let them not be a part of your life anymore.  They have their reasons and most of the time you will never know what that reason is.  It sure is a disappointment at the time and I have had to accept that sometimes it just is what it is.  It has absolutely nothing to do with you and you have to know YOUR truth!  Your truth that you are being the best you can be.  That everyone is a season that can be quite brief or last a lifetime.  I am so thankful for each experience and hope that I handled each one with as much grace as possible.

I think another walk on the beach feels good about now.  It does feel good to know that God will continue to pour his grace all over me because he loves me that much.  He loves you that much too!

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