Posted by: mylovingheart | August 18, 2013

Angels all Around!


My husband used to tell me all the time that he had a guardian angel and that it also was taking care of all of us too.  I have always believed in angels and now truly feel that he has become one of the angels that is always nearby.  The second anniversary of his death is tomorrow and I can’t help but think about our life together and replay the last two years without him.  It has been a time of overwhelming grief and times of absolute happiness.  There were so many things he taught me about life that I didn’t always let sink in, but now I really get what he had to say.  These are a few of the things that I learned from Ed that speak to me today as it did when we were together:

Lesson #1   Life is what you make it.  Some stuff just happens, but most of what will happen in your life is because you made it happen (consciously or not).  Most things start with an idea.  So be imaginative; be positive; and dream big dreams.  Whether you know it or not, life conspires to make your dreams come true!

Lesson #2   Tempis fugit.  That’s Latin for “time flies.”  When you are young, it seems like there’s all the time in the world and sometimes time seems to drag on forever.  As you grow older, however, time has a funny way of speeding by and it gets faster all the time.  And you can’t get it back!   Try to live every day like it may be your last.  Do something you enjoy.  Make time to be with your friends and family.  It goes by all too quickly.

Lesson #3   Do something.  (see lesson #1 above).  Many people think life “happens” to them and there’s nothing to do about it.  Well, that’s just wrong.  To make things happen the way you want them to happen requires some effort.  Wishful thinking may point you in the right direction, but nothing takes the place of hard work and planning.  Set goals for what you want and work toward the goal.  It may not happen as soon as you like, but persistence in the end will pay off.  Some say that success is 2% inspiration and 98% perspiration.  Work hard.  Work harder than those around you.  You may succeed, where others fail, because you did the extra work.  There is a good feeling you get when you’ve given something your best effort.  You will also value things that you had to work for much more than those you are given.

Lesson #4   Have confidence in yourself!  I know that I am smart, talented and a good person.  If you have self-confidence, you will succeed.  If you doubt yourself, or expect to fail…see lesson #1 again!

Lesson #5   Trust your heart and your instincts.  Know what is right from wrong, good from bad, and a myriad of other things that are mostly contained in these “lessons” .

Lesson #6   It’s okay to fail.  It’s okay to make mistakes.  Somehow people have the idea that it’s a bad thing to goof up; something to be embarrassed about.  Well, I don’t think there’s ever been a person on the planet who did not make mistakes.  In fact, some of the best lessons are learned from trying and failing.  The key is to not keep making the same mistakes over and over.

Lesson #7   (And this is a corollary to lesson #6)  Look down the road and keep your eyes open.  Life is like a journey.  If you see a pile of stuff in the middle of your road, go around it.  Don’t step in it if you can avoid it.  Again, it’s okay to make mistakes, but planning and preparation can save you some trouble at times.

Lesson #8  You can’t always get what you want, but you can usually get what you need.  (With apologies to the Rolling Stones.)  It’s true and you must be careful.  Sometimes what you want turns out to be something you really don’t want when you get it, so be careful what you ask for!  Learn to distinguish what is important from what is not.  Advertisement, and generally trying to keep up with the status quo, drives us to want things.  Learning to be happy with less might be better in the long run.

Lesson #9   Things are not always what they seem.  Often times people are only concerned with the appearance of things.  It could be called “form vs. substance” or “Don’t judge a book by its cover”.  Try to look beneath the surface to the “quality” of things.  Quality is something hard to define, but you’ll know it when you find it.  This applies to people, too.  Remember that Satan was the most beautiful Angel, but beneath his looks…pure evil.

Lesson #10   Be ready.  Things don’t always happen when you want them to.  It can be very frustrating that you can’t always make things happen on schedule, but it’s a fact.  It is like the “fishing theory”.  If you want to catch fish, you have to be in the boat, on the water, with your hook baited and be ready.  You never know when things will happen, but if you’re not ready and in the right place at the right time…poof!  Opportunity lost.  Another “non-fishing” aspect of this lesson is that things will happen that you totally do not expect.  When they do, and if they are things you would like, you have to grab on and go!  You might get taken somewhere you never expected.  There is a poem that said:  “If you will not when you may, then you may not when you will.”  That’s an old English way of saying that you have to seize an opportunity when it’s there, because it may not be there when you want it to be.

Lesson #11   Be honest.  Be honest with yourself and with others.  Truth is not always easy.  Truth is not always what we want to hear.  In the long run, you’ll sleep better at night.  Besides, it’s easier to remember the truth than to remember a lie.

Lesson #12   The “Pig Theory”.  There are two parts to the pig theory.  Pig theory #1 is that you never try to teach a pig to sing.  It only wastes your time and annoys the pig.  Pig theory #2 is to never wrestle with a pig.  You only get dirty and the pig enjoys it.  In fact, if pigs can be avoided altogether, life is better.  Of course, in dealing with humanity (especially in a public sense) pigs cannot be avoided altogether.  An interesting twist is the “Vampire Theory”.  Jerks are like vampires.  If you hold up a mirror to them, they can’t see themselves.

Lesson #13    Guard your heart, but not too carefully.  No one likes a broken heart, so there may be things you avoid for fear that you will someday be sad.  Well, life is sometimes sad.  Bad things happen.  That is a guarantee.  It should not prevent you from living and loving.  The depth of your sadness is the opposite of the heights of your joy.  So it’s okay to laugh and it’s okay to cry.  That is what makes life very sweet.

Lesson #14   Never stop learning.  Read books.  Travel.  Expand your horizons.  Try different things.  I once read that we are God’s eyes.  We are nature looking at itself.  So don’t shut off your brain.  Keep learning and experiencing new things!  Brush your teeth using the opposite hand and do some crossword puzzles.  If you don’t exercise your mind, it may grow dull.

Lesson #15  Learning how to say “goodbye” is a necessary life skill.

Some lessons in life are just hard, but I love the amazing strength and courage that comes out of those lessons.  I could not have made it through to where I am today without the absolute love, support and guidance from my friends.  Recently I read this in a book and then it all made sense.

A warrior of light knows that he has much to be grateful for.  He was helped in his struggle by the angels; celestial forces placed each thing in its place, thus allowing him to give of his best.  That is why, at sunset, he kneels and gives thanks for the Protective Cloak surrounding him.  His companions say: “He’s so lucky!” But he knows that “luck” is knowing to look around him and to see where his friends are, because it was through their words that the angels were able to make themselves heard. –Zahir, Paulo Coelho

I am forever grateful that God has placed angels in my life.  I just have to recognize those special moments and be thankful for all the love and life that is all around!

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